Hi there 

By the incredible responses from my “project me” blog, I’m assuming that many of you have joined me on my daily journey of making this year one that is solely about my happiness. It’s about putting me first and living my truth. 

“Project me” is more than a blog.

Writing is my passion and life purpose and so the idea of blogging every day excites me! 

“Project me” is tougher and it daunts me and plays with my self esteem. I started it many years ago, when a very dear client of ours said that she was doing the very same thing and I have slowly shaped my life and transformed my self esteem, walked new paths to happiness and completely metamorphosised my appearance. 

With all this on my side I asked myself how hard blogging about my daily life could be? 

That all depends on only one thing ... how much of the truth I actually tell. 

Not to the readers, but to the individuals in my life, because they would need to read that truth that I did not have the courage to tell them. 

I have no problem telling the world the truth and I am so proud to be into the third year of writing these newsletters with a knowing that every one of them has been in such truth. 

I’ve been pleasantly surprised at how much of the truth I do tell myself and find that expressing it to others or acting it out is where my shadow lingers.

Isn’t this discussion just absurd? 

I am talking about being proud that I speak the truth. 

When people have been commenting about my blog to me, they have been praising me for my bravery in ... you guessed it ... telling my TRUTH! 

Here’s a thought! Isn’t truth who we are? Isn’t truth SOUL? Isn’t truth the real person that is all knowing and powerful? Isn’t truth the human being who wants to live out this life in total joy and abundant happiness?

We even go so far as to lie about the lie. We lie and say that we avoided the truth because of the hurt or pain it would do to another. That’s really as far from the truth as anything. We avoid the truth because of the consequence that we don’t want to deal with, yet we have no idea that the consequence is exactly what the Soul is after. 

A machine works. It doesn’t need an instruction manual to tell itself how to work. It is built to operate in perfection and it does. We are exactly the same. We are exactly who we should be and we think, do and live exactly as we have created ourselves to. 

Now the trouble starts, however, because we begin to try and control the machine. We look outside of ourselves and we see how everybody else is operating and we are too afraid to just live as we were designed to.

Be careful of that statement! 

This is where the truth of who we truly are begins to slip away. We think that because we are all machines, we need to functions like each other and there is nothing further from the truth. On the outside, we might look the same in many ways ... yet we have all been wired very specifically. There is no one person wired the same as anyone else.

I speak to people, daily, who are so detached from the truth that they cannot even see when they are lying to themselves. 

Ah ... you have all been reading this and thinking about the little white lie here or the huge big deceitful act there. These non-truths are just a by-product of the only truth that matters. 

YOUR OWN!

I did it for years! I went on a journey to find my truth and now that I understand that I am nothing but my truth, I smile at myself endearingly and I acknowledge all that I did! I became less and less afraid of the responses, abandonment and consequences of telling the truth. It became less about everyone else, and more about myself.

That’s what transformed me! 

Not into someone new, but back to me ... 

I want to share a tip with you that I discovered recently, while having a panic moment about making a choice in my life (because our choices and actions are all our truth). 

I imagined myself in a world of my own, isolated on an island with no one watching me at all. I gave myself the freedom to say and do whatever I wanted without any consequence from the outside world. On that day, I still chose NOT to do something, even though no one in the world would have been any wiser as to my action. On that day I discovered something that has truly changed my life forever. I trusted myself and discovered that I don’t need the safety net of society to keep me in check ... if anything, the boundaries that hold us in place are the exact ones that prevent us from living our very truth.

This year, I’m not telling myself the truth and I’m not telling anyone else my truth either. This year I am my truth!

 

Contemplate this
There is nothing in this world. There is only truth. 

There is nothing else in this world but truth.

 

Greg’s View on getting to know you

Sometimes music just pops into my head for no reason. I will not have heard the song recently and there is no apparent external prompt. This time it was “Getting to know you” from Rodgers and Hammerstein’s “The King and I”. The reason this is bizarre is because it is not a favourite of mine (although if you knew me then a show tune popping into my head would not surprise you).

I then thought carefully about the words and related it to the myriad of relating that is happening in my life. When we meet someone and immediately “click” with them we know them already. We often say that we recognise them from somewhere or that it is like we have known them all our life. They are easy to talk to and understand us like few others do, even though we have just met. 

We then embark on a process of “getting to know” them: what work they do; where they live; are they married?; do they have children? Yet these things do not alter our perception of the other because we know them. I have to correct the last sentence: these things should not alter our perception of the other but sometimes they do. When we learn things about the other that make us uncomfortable, because they reflect something within ourselves, often our perception of them does change. I know that I can get very uncomfortable with people who are very much like me because of the very fact that I see a lot of me in them. 

“Once I got to know them I realised they weren’t for me,” I’ve heard myself say on occasion. This isn’t entirely true because in hindsight I knew deep down that they were never for me right from the start. The ego just needed to work it out for itself. If you have ever read Malcolm Gladwell’s “Blink” then you would see my point that in the very instant that we meet someone we already know whether we will get on with them, how special they could be in our life, and whether we would want to spend more time with them. Conversation is not necessary.

This is not to say that conversation is not important in a relationship of any kind. On the contrary, communication with the other is necessary and healthy but only to minimise confusion by the ego, the Soul does not need this communication. The Soul knows.

Also, please understand me when I say “they were never for me”. We can never make a wrong choice and there is never an experience that shouldn’t have happened but, in this case, the reason for the experience may have been purely for the ego.

Every day we are relating with someone very special in our lives; someone more important than anyone we will meet. That someone we call “me”. The same observations apply to this relationship: we already know who we are, why we are here, and everything we need to know in order to get there. The constant chatter to ourselves is our ego and this is what changes the perception of ourselves (only our perception of ourselves can change). However, we are so used to the ego as it is the very world around us (I’ll explain this in more detail in a future discussion) that we battle to hear our Soul or sometimes even choose not to hear it. Any internal voice that is justifying and analysing is ego; the Soul just knows and does not have to justify. 

Listen to what you feel deep within. Listen carefully. You already know the people you meet. You already know you.

 

Project me

Waking up every day and living consciously is an incredible experience. It’s only been two weeks and I am in awe at the power of choice. Project me has been all about choosing. The choice to do things differently ... to put myself first, to live happy, to love myself  ... and the choice to blog about it. The teacher in me wanted to share this with the world so that I could inspire and the gift in return has been the most inspirational support and love imaginable. At the end of each day, I just can’t wait to blog and, as the writer, all I want is for more and more people to be inspired to create their own projects.

On that note, I have a special favour to ask you! When reading the blogs, please make time to DIGG or TWEET or share on FACEBOOK so that the project can spread and more people can choose. 

Please subscribe to the RSS feed in the right hand corner or under the blog post. I have included an instructional video to help anyone who does not know how to do this, thanks to my dear friend, Khuram Malik. The advantage of subscribing to the feed is the notification that you will receive everyday in your inbox. 

And lastly ... don’t be shy to comment ... you don’t know how impactful your words truly are! 

Once again ... thank you for the amazing support!

 

Exciting change for Jodene and Greg

We are both so proud of ourselves and cannot believe that two years have passed us by. Behind the scenes, we have been creating our individual journeys and walking our exciting paths, side by side. We are both great fans of change and challenges and so we are underway with thrilling changes that are going to be shared with you next month.

Look out for it ... although we think it will be blazingly obvious!

 

In truth …

Jodene & Greg